As many of you have probably heard from social media, a few weeks ago VOGUE wrote an article about having a boyfriend and how it comes across in today’s world. I am going to share my opinion on this topic.
Similarly to what they said, I think it is so cringy to see a woman’s life centered around a man especially on social media. Without saying names, I followed an influencer on Instagram with over 1 million followers. She had funny, relatable content covering everything from fashion, self-love, living in the moment, and connecting to God – I really adored her social. Recently she got into a relationship. Before I go any further, I want to be clear. I am an advocate for love. I think love is the greatest thing that humans can experience but what I am not a fan of, particularly regarding today’s dating scene is a woman giving up her identity to be loved by a man. This influencer’s content went down the drain. Sorry if that’s harsh but it’s the truth. There were no more posts of fashion or skin care. Every single piece of content she made was about this new boyfriend. So, I thought, do you remember who you were before them? You lived a whole life, created an entire business and it’s like it doesn’t even matter anymore. Unfortunately, this seems to be a common habit. I unfollowed her. Not because I’m not happy for her, but because I followed for a certain type of content that just wasn’t being produced anymore.
I want woman to know that a man doesn’t make your experience. We’ve come so far in the past few decades and I am so proud of where we are now. It certainly has become a flex for women, myself included to be single. Our aura is insanely powerful, beautiful and magnetic when you provide yourself with the love that you desire. I’m not one way or another. However, I know that loving yourself is step 1. Becoming high value is step 2. And if you desire to be in a relationship and align with another high value person, then jump all over the opportunity. But remember the right person will provide you with a safe space to be more of your truest self. You are whole on your own and no matter how much you may think it, no one else will fulfill what is required of you to provide for yourself.
“Boyfriends are out of style. They won’t come back in until they start acting right.” A comment with thousands of likes on the Delusional Diaries podcast.
What I agreed with most while reading the article written by Chante Joseph was their closing. Stating what is also happening alongside which is “a wave of women reclaiming and romanticizing their single life. Where being single was once a cautionary tale (you’ll end up a “spinster” with loads of cats), it is now becoming a desirable and coveted status—another nail in the coffin of a centuries-old heterosexual fairytale that never really benefited women to begin with.”
Love will never go out of fashion but being with someone who doesn’t treat you like a queen, certainly is!
What do you think, are you embarrassed to say you have a boyfriend?
With love,
Jessie
The Malleable Path.